tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post8043167561424546011..comments2024-03-08T21:39:46.623-05:00Comments on The Green Bough: HijackedOriahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-37664870625091409882012-04-20T09:27:21.448-04:002012-04-20T09:27:21.448-04:00It's still in the works- will share as it come...It's still in the works- will share as it comes into full form :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-53385976333764046122012-04-19T23:50:19.219-04:002012-04-19T23:50:19.219-04:00Oriah, did you continue to write the poem that you...Oriah, did you continue to write the poem that you started? I would love to read it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-38237832135448553842012-04-18T08:54:07.546-04:002012-04-18T08:54:07.546-04:00Dear Oriah, Feeling like our emotions have been hi...Dear Oriah, Feeling like our emotions have been hijacked, while understanding that we have actually hoodwinked ourselves is a deep, sensitive, and totally relatable lesson. Thanks for sharing this and reminding us that we are in charge. One way that I learned early in life to recognize and remain calm during these kind of situations is to be able to recognize the 'irrationality' of someone's position. The idea is that if you know that the sky IS blue, and someone tells you that you're wrong, that the sky is green... Within several vollies of that fact, you have to learn to step back, take a breath, and smile vs. dig in. :) It really is not our responsibility to convince anyone of anything. What we we can do is simply inform others in the kindest way, what we think we know, while keeping in mind that our knowing is generally speaking, always subject to change or revision. :) Again thank you for the great reminder of a super positive idea for sharing.Michele Andersonhttp://marketingmethods.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-27094751659730136152012-04-17T20:52:25.661-04:002012-04-17T20:52:25.661-04:00i totally get you. Thanks - really.i totally get you. Thanks - really.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-1198760656531793112012-04-17T20:20:40.309-04:002012-04-17T20:20:40.309-04:00Thank you Nancy. Of course,the truth is I have no ...Thank you Nancy. Of course,the truth is I have no idea what was going on with the other person- I may have misunderstood her or she may have actually intended to be nasty- it doesn't really matter. Funny, now that I think about it, the tone she took would have surprised me less if it had come from a man (apologies to my brothers.) Will have to mull that over- would I have been less reactive if a man had written the same things? Hmmmmm. . . .Always room for a little curiosity and growth of new self-awareness :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-48007542012405288482012-04-17T20:18:10.589-04:002012-04-17T20:18:10.589-04:00Nathalie, your comment reminds me of something tha...Nathalie, your comment reminds me of something that goes through my mind when I observe myself feeling reactive over a few comments made by someone I don't even know- I think to myself: If I am this upset by such a small thing and wanting to reply, how can we ever stop reacting as a country or group to others who may have real power to do us harm. What I experienced here was really small potatoes- but it's a good place to practise non-reactivity if we ever want to hold that place where it really matters. Thanks for you comment Natalie :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-88524223938850893982012-04-17T16:58:06.465-04:002012-04-17T16:58:06.465-04:00Thank you for your words of truth here Oriah - Exa...Thank you for your words of truth here Oriah - Exactly what I needed to hear - I have found myself biting the hook in the last few days with 2 different situations and just this morning I said to my friend - "I am not allowing anyone to mess with my peace and joy." From now on, if I don't want to hear something that is not nice or loving I can tell them. <br /><br />We must live in our truth and it sounds as if this woman has had some issues in her life and feels the need for power.....wish her love and light and let her go.<br /><br />In gratitude,<br />NancyNancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08066884129974460069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-87901579330141364012012-04-17T15:24:08.179-04:002012-04-17T15:24:08.179-04:00Oriah, I loved reading this as it made me revisit ...Oriah, I loved reading this as it made me revisit a similar event that happened to me about a year ago. I am so sorry this happened to you and I remember that for me, it took a few weeks to recover from this. <br /><br />The fact that you walked away and was able to compose yourself so fast shows me how wise you are. Now to have written about this is absolutely wonderful as it serves as a reminder for you but it is such a strong message and warning for your readers. <br /><br />I can see that from the comments, there are a lot of people experiencing cyber bullying...and as I also notice, cyber bullying is not only reserved for our beloved children around the world!<br /><br />Imagine...we are adults and we have for the most part done a lot of personal development! If we act and react strongly to these type of situations, can you imagine children...teens... My heart feels heavy at the thought of young boys and girls secretly aching somewhere in their room because of a mean person. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing this and especially how you death with it. You are such a great example to fallow. I think I will do a painting about this as it touches me deeply.<br /><br />NathalieNathaliehttp://www.womenthatconnect.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-18219512892923746252012-04-17T08:31:50.301-04:002012-04-17T08:31:50.301-04:00And thanks for the comment- stirs something that n...And thanks for the comment- stirs something that needs to be included in the chapter I am writing!Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-62682957663633429242012-04-17T08:30:29.891-04:002012-04-17T08:30:29.891-04:00Yes, unless someone is actually doing something to...Yes, unless someone is actually doing something to physically harm us (which does not require our co-operation) we are largely the source of our own pain- which is not to say that the other can't be behaving very badly. I say this because I tend (in an effort at inner empowerment and a desire to end my own suffering) to sometimes take it on as ALL me- and ignore the fact that the other is lying or harassing or being beligerent. Doesn't really change what I need to do (inner work- I cannot control another) but I am aware that I need to be careful not to (as one therapist once said to me) "eat the abuse." :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-67400307393393441582012-04-16T21:02:45.168-04:002012-04-16T21:02:45.168-04:00As hooked and hooker the other day I hurt and was ...As hooked and hooker the other day I hurt and was hurt. A good Buddhist friend patiently explained to me that I was the source of my own pain. Boy that's so hard to accept but it helped coming from someone I respect. What's so easy to seize in a moment is so hard to give away, yet consider it a butterfly and you would lovingly let it fly.Stiffmousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15638422305627174368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-1632876952131694402012-04-16T08:33:55.419-04:002012-04-16T08:33:55.419-04:00If you read the blog, you will see that I do not b...If you read the blog, you will see that I do not blame the person who chastized me at all- I am very clear that my reactivity is MINE- (and was in fact puzzled by such reactivity to a small written comments from someone I don`t know.)I don`t claim to know anything about what is going on with the other. That I chose to use my experience to delve more deeply into going from gleeful to glum in minutes indicates no lack of compassion for the other- in fact, I investigate these kinds of things (and share these inquiries) in the hope that we will discover how to be less reactive (and possibly expand the ability to be compassionate) in the future. If we cannot honestly examine and share our own inner experience for fear of being judged by others, I do wonder how we would learn. The inquiry you read in this blog is indeed one aspect of the on-going practice.Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-15210627560628214472012-04-15T17:18:21.640-04:002012-04-15T17:18:21.640-04:00Dear Oriah,
I would like to ask you a question. ...Dear Oriah, <br />I would like to ask you a question. You have received a lot of support and the person you interacted with has received blame both from you and from those who read your blog. There is no compassion for them here. So, I would like to ask, did you really walk away? <br /><br />It is an ongoing practice, is it not!<br />NamasteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-56422127566198655442012-04-14T12:33:14.096-04:002012-04-14T12:33:14.096-04:00Oriah, I am about to prepare my taxes (ugh) but wa...Oriah, I am about to prepare my taxes (ugh) but wanted to take a minute to your 'Hijacked' that I read last night. I will have to return and read the other comments later.<br /><br />I had a similar experience a couple of months ago. I called it Blindsided. I was devastated and couldn't understand why. It wasn't anything that anyone said, but it was an expectation that I was supposed to fulfill, and then the opportunity was removed after all of my preparation.<br /><br />I had tears in my eyes, and had to keep repeating the 'truth' of the matter - the facts - in order to get my (what I felt were) over-reactive feelings under control.<br /><br />In my mind, I was able to see the facts clearly, that it wasn't about me, it was a logical outcome of changed circumstances. I still had difficulty getting my feelings to cooperate.<br /><br />When I read your story, it reminded me of this incident, and appreciated what you wrote. I went through alot of the same self-talk (maybe this, maybe that - to the facts; how reactive I had become; being shamed, being wounded) and ultimately I was able to put this sleeping incident away (I didn't even know it was still there). <br /><br />"I'd been feeling expansive, open, unguarded...landed in a tender sport, hit me in a vulnerable moment." You touched upon exactly where I was at during that time, and I realized that my reaction wasn't something to be frustrated about or ashamed of. At the time, I just had to let play out, and forget it. <br /><br />Better to put a 'name' to it; it takes the negative out of the experience and as always, I thank you for sharing with such courage!<br /><br />Love to youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-81616086489702400782012-04-13T08:48:09.960-04:002012-04-13T08:48:09.960-04:00Yes, and as we remember our humanity we may find f...Yes, and as we remember our humanity we may find forgiveness coming a bit more easily the next time someone else bites the hook!Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-81529446377248922072012-04-13T08:47:08.866-04:002012-04-13T08:47:08.866-04:00Thank you Corinne :-)Thank you Corinne :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-61880363265987426612012-04-13T07:59:34.476-04:002012-04-13T07:59:34.476-04:00And, I love your writing and this story and think ...And, I love your writing and this story and think perhaps these moments also just teach us about our humanity and vulnerability and bring us down to earth, enlisting more compassion for ourselves. The goal changes from becoming enlightened, or having balance to even more self love and acceptance at our real feelings, frustrations and pain. The little girl within feels what she feels and no amount of rationalizing and fixing makes her not feel it all. So painful, for me at least. And so humbling, to just have to be with her, again and again and again.alicelovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04836704817578442129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-37630547595253270912012-04-13T06:59:31.790-04:002012-04-13T06:59:31.790-04:00Dear Oriah and all my sisters and brothers, I hav...Dear Oriah and all my sisters and brothers, I have realized today that I have based the last 25 years of my life on the tenants of the 'invitation', I have done this consciously and unconsciously...by and by...over time I have come closer through commitment and discipline. I had forgotten all about it, and yet not and have found it again, renewed in my newly green life...<br />I just wanted to say a simple thank you for giving me such an awesome map in my path finding walk through life.Corinnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-85137161563150695412012-04-12T22:23:35.704-04:002012-04-12T22:23:35.704-04:00LOL- yes indeed- keeps us humble! :-)LOL- yes indeed- keeps us humble! :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-83368334949677591302012-04-12T20:08:06.553-04:002012-04-12T20:08:06.553-04:00Don't'cha love it! Just when we think we&#...Don't'cha love it! Just when we think we've got a handle on something, up comes the Goddess 'Oh yeah?', and gives us a swift clout about our fundaments.<br /><br />Well done for weathering the storm.<br /><br />May we all have a safe harbour, while She readies Herself for the next lesson.widdershinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04205462833259334647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-5006524101621623922012-04-12T09:58:54.289-04:002012-04-12T09:58:54.289-04:00Sondra, Love that you use the example of reacting ...Sondra, Love that you use the example of reacting to a flame. Did you know that when your hand touches a hot stove you withdraw BEFORE you feel pain. It's a reflex- the brain withdraws faster than you can perceive pain (if you didn't withdraw until you felt pain you would be much more badly burned.) I think emotional reactivity is similar but we can learn to slooooow the process down- so we don't act until we perceive and are with the inner reactivty. As to wholeness- we never really lose it - and self-forgiveness is a good policy even as we hold ourselves to cultivating increasing equanimity :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-32275083138030592782012-04-12T09:54:05.658-04:002012-04-12T09:54:05.658-04:00I think reactivity is a lesson for all of us to le...I think reactivity is a lesson for all of us to learn from.....to overcome that..as You said Oriah it comes from deep within us,from our wound,from our bleeding wound and that is why is so painful and so fast reaction occurs...when one touches flame we all know what is going to happen...our human nature takes over without thinking,just reacts.<br />I am very much like You,Oriah,try to be awake and conscious most of the time and at one simple point loose a grip and misbehave and afterwords cannot stop blaming myself for what i have done...this is my biggest problem.How to become a whole again?..sondranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-31210273411627396232012-04-12T08:21:51.211-04:002012-04-12T08:21:51.211-04:00lol- okay, but FB or any other technology is just ...lol- okay, but FB or any other technology is just a tool and folks can use it anyway they like. Honestly I get more "junk mail" (re: covert ads) on twitter but then I need to take my twitter tutorial to really figure that out.Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-54846649132034673722012-04-12T08:20:00.360-04:002012-04-12T08:20:00.360-04:00Sabine, well, in the interests of full disclosure ...Sabine, well, in the interests of full disclosure I did answer back- twice!- before I went to the library. Ah well, better late sanity than no sanity :-)Oriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153842083329682011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3524364334037666877.post-72833024948818718412012-04-12T00:56:38.490-04:002012-04-12T00:56:38.490-04:00How perfect ... As soon as we think we know what h...How perfect ... As soon as we think we know what happiness is (or love or whatever) we are presented with an opportunity to go deeper yet - to revisit the question and to maintain our equilibrium and our joy. No rest for us. I agree - being aware more quickly is a good thing, getting back on the ball without resistance and resentment is taking some time (for me), and I look forward to NOT getting thrown off at all. Thanks for your continuing courage to admit your im/perfect humanness - for all of us.Marayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13780524658528826957noreply@blogger.com